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Foster carers inherently know; nurturing children with love will enable them to be the best for a child. And, for many foster carers, nurturing children with love comes easily to them; they have nurtured children professionally and personally all their lives.
They are also people who naturally stand behind others and are unlikely to push themselves forward. Quite simply, foster carers think about others before themselves; they are the givers in society.
However, they share one motivation; they have an inherent desire to help children become the best of themselves by nurturing them with love.
Taking your time and not rushing into fostering is the best way forward.
Often, we decided to foster a long time ago; however, they waited until the time was right. And, this is how it should be; because if you rush, you get things wrong. And, for vulnerable children in care, they rely on you to get things right.
For these children, anything else is disastrous because they need nurturing with love, stability and continual care. Therefore, taking your time and not rushing into fostering is, by far, the best way for children who need you.
I have spoken with potential foster carers for many years in my career in foster care recruitment; the ones who succeed always have a structured plan behind them. Their motivation is to make a difference in children’s lives; for them, fostering is a calling or a way to give back to others.
These people have taken their time; they researched fostering. Subsequently, they gained a strong understanding of the foster care role. They know that foster care is something they will always do, and when the time is right, they start the process because they are in control.
More importantly, they too have a strong understanding of fostering and the perspective of foster care from a child’s eyes.
Sadly, these eyes are from a child who belongs to another family they cannot live with.
Therefore, these foster carers nurture with love. They have a depth of love to understand the importance and perspective of consistent contact and love; from all the family. Also, these foster carers inherently know the essential connection children have with family; vital regular contact is crucial, regardless of their circumstances.
These foster carers are non-judgemental; they don’t judge, and they don’t define. They step back and quietly get on with putting others before themselves because, quite simply, they understand.
There are many reasons why children are in care. Still, regardless of the past, one fact remains that it is crucial for the well-being of every child and parent to maintain regular contact together wherever possible. Parents of children in care, siblings and grandparents, and other family members who have had a pivotal role in the child’s life need regular contact. Maintaining contact with children and their families has to be a priority for all foster carers.
Regular contact with family is important to children in care.
Without contact, a child will lose their sense of belonging to a community and with the people with whom they developed strong bonds of attachment. When children lose this, the consequences for vulnerable children are devastating, as they become anxious and scared.
Therefore, foster carers know of these consequences for children. They understand how children will react, especially if they lose significant peer role models of their past, whom they love and trust.
More importantly, these foster carers know these children aren’t their children. They are other people’s children, and for them, caring for these children on behalf of their families is a privilege. Subsequently, getting this care right is vital for the peace of mind of families. They need to know their children are with good people who will care for and love them until such a time, as they can go home.
These foster carers understand the family bonds that many children have; they know the importance of family, especially for children who need emergency and short-term foster care.
Also, they know how important it is to keep siblings together. However, there is a shortage of foster carers to take siblings; sadly, they become separated.
Hopefully, many children who are in short-term and emergency care will go back to their families. However, the reality of reuniting siblings once separated is slim.
Foster carers nurture children with love to be the best for themselves.
When we have love and genuine care for children and young people, we can look at what we have to do to do this. As I said earlier, foster carers who become approved have a plan; they have waited and know the transferable skills for fostering, skills that nurture children with love to be the best for themselves.
I knew there was another way in foster care recruitment, and I want to help you begin your plan. If you don’t plan, you can’t prepare, and this is why I set up Verve.
Verve; recruiting foster carers for Not for Profit Charities.
When I set up Verve three years ago, I had two target audiences in mind; firstly, the Not for Profit sector is the most important for me. Secondly, suppose we cannot find a Not for Profit Charity that fits your criteria. In that case, we will refer you to inquire with your Local Authority. The reason for this? I do not believe in vast profit’s made from corporate businesses because of vulnerable children in care.
When a child goes into care, they will go to their Local Authority because they are responsible for them. Wherever possible, they will place them with one of their foster carers. These foster carers will match the needs of the children; however, sometimes, they will not have this match. Therefore, they look at other organisations, like Not for Profit Charities and agencies, to find one of their foster carers to match the child’s needs.
If they do not have this match, they will go to Independent Fostering Agencies; however, there is a huge cost increase for an IFA foster carer. Subsequently, they have to pay their prices because the children need foster homes. Alternatively, they will end up in residential children’s homes, which adds further expense. Subsequently, Local Authority budgets become burdened by these costs.
Verve’s vision is to help you plan and prepare your fostering journey with a Charity you feel connected with and start your fostering career with clarity on the road ahead.
Get in touch today, and prepare your pathway to fostering.
If you have thought about fostering, please, don’t put it off any longer. There is a huge need for foster carers, especially people who can look after children by offering short-term and emergency care, especially for siblings and older children.
Contact Verve for independent advice on foster care. There is no cost and no obligation; just honest and impartial advice on fostering. Once you have this, we connect you with a Charity we feel reflects you.
The pathway for a child’s future is more straightforward; once it is prepared and planned, together with foster carers to nurture children with love to help them be the best they can be. Can you foster?