Children in care are waiting for fostering families who will understand them; they will understand the monsters that scare them, and as a result, be the ones to ‘chase their monsters away’.
These children need foster carers and their families to give them a safe and loving home to have a sense of belonging.
However, there is a COVID 19 amongst us, and this monster threatens our normality, which badly impacts vulnerable children and their families.
Coronavirus has brought with it considerable changes in how we run our lives. Often, we can feel that we have lost control over our day to day living; subsequently, we think we are in danger of losing our purpose in life.
There is a pressing concern about mental health issues that COVID 19 is bringing; for both adults and children alike. Therefore, how can we calm the fear in vulnerable children when our fears and control of it are questionable?
The kindness of strangers during lockdown…
We are finding that now, more than ever, families are becoming closer than ever before. We are appearing to becoming less judgemental and being kinder to each other as a result of Coronavirus.
Subsequently, the feelings we have when ‘told’ to accept change are an entirely new phenomenon for some people. As a result, they are not adapting to changes; it makes many create and control their changes.
Coronavirus pulled the rug from under us; in turn, it caused people to reflect on not only their own lives; but on the lives of people that once were invisible to them.
We are now aware of the monsters in our lives; because the monster of COVID is amongst us in places other than a child’s imagination.
Verve, working together with charities to bring about change…
Many Charities in our communities have been a part of our landscape for decades and often go unnoticed until we have to use them, sadly.
For many families, charities are why they can stay together; sadly, the primary decision is whether to put food on the table; or pay the rent/ mortgage? Often, vulnerable families can achieve these decisions with the support of charities.
However, Coronavirus brings fresh challenges for families, especially families with children they now have to contend with.
These challenges are usually because of the care and support that vulnerable families typically rely on, often from friends or family members, which helps them function; it is now sadly gone.
Once this support network is lost, families become vulnerable, which often leads to the risk of families breaking down, and sadly, children go into care.
Children’s mental health is suffering due to a lack of support…
A darker challenge for all of us is the increase in mental health issues brought about by Coronavirus and loneliness, which is especially true for children and young people.
The phrase ‘chasing the monsters away’ was not chosen lightly. Children are afraid because these are scary times, but it is worse for children in care with no family support network.
Children’s mental health support networks are full beyond capacity, and the other support structures may be closed due to Coronavirus.
Therefore, we must recruit foster carers who understand and know vulnerable children; who understand children’s fears and anxieties, and recognise how it manifests in behaviour.
Subsequently, these foster carers; and their families will significantly impact vulnerable children’s physical, emotional, and mental health.
Children clapping for our NHS brought about feelings of change…
At the beginning of Coronavirus, we were unsure of exactly what we were dealing with and; as a result, we went along with changes.
We had no choice; because fear was becoming a significant player in our daily lives. We were unsure of the outcomes; the media displayed daily death figures and illness; there was no respite from it.
Along came the army of angels with pictures of rainbows…
Then along came the children’s army, an army of ‘angels’. They brought the pictures of rainbows they made; (well done to whoever it was that thought of this, you are indeed an inspiration).
We proudly placed them in our windows as an unlikely symbol of safety. We proudly stood with children, clapping loudly for the angels of the NHS, but the reality was the children were the ones chasing the ‘monsters of COVID away’ for us.
It seemed children could sense our fear; therefore, they drew pictures to take the monsters away; and it worked.
And this is what foster carers do for children in care; they remove the fear in the simplest of ways; with love.
Children in care weren’t part of this display; they sadly watched from the sidelines.
Sadly, many children in care were not a part of this display, including children in care homes. These are vulnerable children who have often faced trauma and abuse in their lives; subsequently, they may wait for their futures decisions.
Strangers will make decisions, and children are in a world where nothing will be the same again, except the monsters in their heads fed by fear.
Sadly, children in care often have little or no control over these decisions; however, the monsters remain. Subsequently, they rely on adults getting it right; they are vulnerable, which is not where they want to be for many children.
However, adults now have a new fear; because the monster of COVID 19 appears to be controlling everyone; ultimately, people are putting off decisions about finding out more about foster care.
The world is a scary place for a child in care; who chases their monsters away?’
The world for children in care is becoming scarier by the day; they cannot take control of their futures or bring about the change they desperately need. Therefore, these children need people who have time, experience and love to give to them.
Furthermore, children need foster carers to hear their voices and help when scared; more importantly, children will learn to trust again.
Vulnerable children do not need bedrooms in care homes; they need stability in a safe and loving fostering family home where the monsters are chased away, a home where they genuinely feel they belong.
Can you be a ‘safe place’ that children in care need?
Verve proudly works together with Not for Profit fostering charities that offer outstanding support to the foster families that represent them.
We are looking for new foster families with spare bedrooms and time and space to dedicate to vulnerable children in care.
We need people to be the ones to chase the monsters away for vulnerable children and make them feel safe. Verve is looking for fostering families who are passionate about changing the way forward for children in care and, ultimately, be the best that children deserve.
Children in care do not need a bedroom in a ‘care home.’ They need a bedroom in a fostering home; with a fostering family who will love them unconditionally.
If you want to find out more about becoming a foster carer with Verve and a Not for Profit Charity, contact us on the form below, and we will get back to you.