There has never been a greater need for inspirational people to come forward as foster carers than now. Coronavirus is causing us all to reassess our lives, and now more than ever, our children look to us for inspiration because to them, we are the future.
It is no longer about rainbows, children are aware of a change, and they have questions they need answers to. Ultimately, children trust us to answer them and look after them, so they don’t need to be scared.
However, this is not how it is for vulnerable children in care. They now, more than ever, need inspirational foster carers to guide them, make them feel safe, and be their inspiration as they lead children in care to a better future.
Inspirational people leading the way.
Inspirational people who understand children are vital. It is not enough to have a spare bedroom for a vulnerable child; they need more than this. They need people who will understand them and lead by example and show them the right way in life.
More than ever, they need your patience to inspire them, to guide their way and stay the course and never, ever quit on them.
No matter what they throw at you because they will test you. Sadly, we let children down too many times, and it will take time for them to learn to trust again.
‘My foster child pushed my buttons every day because he was testing me. I used to say,’ I don’t care what you do; I am not giving up on you. Okay?‘ And I never did. Now he’s settling in at college and studying childcare because he wants to be a foster carer too.’Foster parent – Salford
Looking at the world through the eyes of a child.
Inspirational people that work with children or are successfully raising or have raised their own family view the world through children’s eyes. These people understand vulnerable children and get the ‘silent pain’ that some children feel.
They instinctively know that they have felt something similar and know that children ‘act out’ behaviour. However, frustration and anger, or ‘acting out, are the only way some children learn to get attention.
Equally, some people instinctively know because of their own lives when sadly, looking through a child’s eyes was their own safe space.
‘Some children have layers of emotional sides to them, and you must unpick their behaviour and look behind the cause with an understanding and empathy with them.’Jane R- Caritas Care
Inspirational foster carers know that children who have complex needs have many layers; they are tough. To these children, crying is a weakness they have learned to control, and this control is the way they handle life; sadly, the truth is that many children in care will not know how to cry.
They often are desensitised to their feelings; they know that no one appears to care, so what’s the point? So, this is why we never give up on children, and foster carers allow children to be just that; children.
Inspiring children to be who they want to be.
Children explore their feelings through play; a child’s imagination is a beautiful tool to inspire and protect. When a child plays, the world is a better place, and they are with the Superheroes they aspire to.
Inspirational foster carers understand the power of play, and their heroes can allow children to be children, which, as a result, gently removes the negative triggers.
Ultimately, with consistent love and support and never giving up, children realise that Superheroes are not just on TV. These Superheroes are now with them every day, leading the way with a family to let them be who they want to be.
They are inspiring foster carers who understand and will never give up on them!
Inspirational foster carers are the real Superheroes…
For many people, the decision to foster is a difficult one to make for many reasons. Maybe we may have faced things in our lives that we want to keep parked away, and subsequently, as a foster carer, we could re-open again? Maybe we think our lives are not as successful enough?
But how do children in care measure your success? For these children, foster carers are not an empty bed in a house that accommodates them. Real foster carers are the Superheroes; they are the real change-makers who do not give up on them and have learned to get them.
They are the people they have learned to trust and inspire them to get on with being children. Subsequently, they are people that have chosen to be foster carers and carefully selected the right agency for them; and dedicated themselves to never giving up on a child.
To do this, they know they have to work together as a team, to be the inspirational voice that children need and advocate for them, and even more importantly, to learn and evolve to maintain their Superheroe status continually.
Not all Superheroes wear capes…Can you foster?
Verve recruits foster carers for Not for Profit fostering charities because we believe in putting children before profit.
Fostering charities put every penny back into the services they offer to children, families and their communities, and with ‘outstanding’ foster carers, they will continue to support vulnerable children.
Not for Profit charities care about their foster carers and offer you exceptional and consistent support and training 24/7 to do what you have set out to achieve.
If you would like to find out more about becoming a foster carer with a Not for Profit charity, contact us today on the following form, and I will call you back.