Coronavirus is changing how we live our lives and leaving many of us to ask ourselves, ‘Is it time for a change?‘
Maybe, Coronavirus for all its deadly intentions, is the key to change? And, perhaps, children need change-makers to lead the way now more than ever before?
Change-makers are the past leaders with whom we owe so much; could you be the change children need; Can you foster?
Coronavirus brought change we neither expected nor wanted and was more significant than anything envisaged. Thus, its impact has touched all our lives.
For many, the economic and social effects have caused reflection; what is essential in our lives? Sadly, the lockdown means we spend less time with family, and for some, this change is good. For others, it brings a longing to see the children we cannot see; our children, grandchildren, and family.
Thus it creates a time for reflection to the people who were change-makers in our lives, the people who inspired us, and whom we recognise that we owe so much.
Is it time for a change; can we be the change-makers that children need as inspirational foster carers?
Change-makers lead the way by influence.
Many people are unaware of their influence on others because, to them, kindness comes naturally. They have empathy, kindness and compassion, which are often misunderstood by many because, sadly, they don’t know how to react to it.
However, change-makers never give up on children; they keep on leading because it is inherent. Change-makers influenced the generations that walked before; they were generations that fought through adversity with humour, pride and dignity, and their impact resonates today.
The influence of others often shapes our lives; these role models lead the way through example; subsequently, change-makers lead the way and become influencers as we grow.
Sadly, many vulnerable children do not have the stability of influential role models in their formative years; they stumble across them later in life.
Regardless of how we meet them, change-makers lead the way for us; they put us on the right path, and they are the people we never forget; for the right reasons!
‘These change-makers are the peer role models of our past. The generations that had walked before us and left the imprint of their hearts with us to share. Quite simply, they are why we are the way we are, and we must never forget them.Val Hogan
Nature versus Nurture?
Sadly, many people may not have the good fortune to have had a positive influence on their lives, yet they still aspire to be a good person regardless. They know right from wrong inherently, and these people are the future role models that vulnerable children need.
Is this the nature versus nurture debate? Are we naturally created to know right from wrong, or are we nurtured with support from others?
Do we follow our natural path, or do we follow change-makers that lead the way?
Change-makers know right from wrong.
The motivation for people who want change is not to be the best; in short, it’s much more straightforward than that. These people know right from wrong and what ultimately feels right to them.
They are no more likely to tell a child to do something wrong than do it themselves; they know it would be false and potentially damaging.
Change-makers; the inspiration of the future.
Change-makers are motivated by honesty; they are good people who are not afraid to speak out. As a result, they are more likely to be championing others before themselves.
These change-makers are people that vulnerable children and young people in care need; they inspire the future that children aspire to and follow their path with trust.
Change-makers; learning from past mistakes.
Many change-makers are people who have made mistakes and learned from them, and more importantly, they accepted the consequences of their actions with dignity.
Change-makers are role models; they are ordinary people with everyday lives; they are not celebrities that create a persona for children; change-makers are real people that walk with them.
Firstly, change-makers are the ones that hear children when no one else listens, and secondly, they pick them up and put them back down again as many times as it takes!
Ultimately, they never give up on them, and children thrive because of them.
‘We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, true empathy. Yet listening, of this extraordinary kind, is one of the most potent forces for change that I know.’Carl Rogers
We’re Not A Fostering Agency!
Foster carers are unique change-makers adapting to change.
For every path we take in life, we learn and adapt. Sometimes, the trail takes us out of our comfort zone, and for some people, change is good.
For others, they prefer the comfort of familiarity; however, most change-makers have learnt from experiences, and as a result, this experience makes them unique.
Coronavirus has changed our lives, but it has not weakened our resolve to recruit new foster carers; if anything, it has made our resolve stronger. The Verve mission is simple; we want to increase the number of quality foster carers with charities for children in care, a task that makes us unique!
Foster carers are ‘influencers.’
Foster carers are ‘influencers’ ( whoever designed that phrase needs to give their head a wobble!)
They promote positive well-being to children in a loving home where children feel safe and wanted. Foster carers are ordinary people who may have made mistakes in their lives; subsequently, they learned from them because of change-makers kindness.
Foster carers are modern-day influencers; they are the change-makers that children in care need.
Children in care are waiting; these children need their voices heard; they need to feel they belong in homes with foster carers who will change their lives and realise their potential.
In short, they need foster carers to make change real because they had change-makers in their life to influence them when they needed it. Can you foster?
Verve offers free and independent advice on becoming a foster carer with the ‘Not for Profit’ Charity. If you would like to find out more about what we do, why we do it, and who we do it with, please get in touch.
‘Together, we can make a difference in the lives of the future change-makers; our children…’