Unlocking the dream to becoming a foster carer is a huge step and one that many have thought about for a long time; subsequently, they wait until the time is right before making their dream a reality.
The dream to fostering is usually inspired, for many, by personal experiences, which becomes the motivation to foster; subsequently, over time, the motivation to foster grows stronger.
Sadly, the time we thought we had for planning is gone. Coronavirus has affected almost every household; we know now the time we thought we had planned doesn’t exist.
Coronavirus has brought change that we neither wanted nor welcomed; however, it has given a window of opportunity to make our fostering dreams come alive earlier than anticipated.
Our lives have changed, and with it appears to be a change in attitudes, especially to our homes and our families. Thus, we are making decisions about our futures that we never expected, and for many people, the motivation for fostering has become even stronger.
Sadly, children feel the effect of Coronavirus too.
Sadly, our children also have felt the effects of Coronavirus. The normality of a child’s life altered dramatically; their schools closed, and friendships and relationships that were a huge part of their life went.
Thus, children didn’t complain; they simply painted rainbows to cheer us up and stood with us, clapping to say thank you to our NHS and keyworkers. Consequently, children have become a far more integral part of family life than ever before.
Coronavirus has brought many families closer. Sadly, it has split many families further apart, and many vulnerable children in care need foster carers.
As a result, it has made many more people start to ask themselves, could now be the right time to unlock the dream of fostering?
What is your motivation for fostering?
Realising a dream and unlocking a dream to make it real often begs people who don’t foster to ask, ‘Why do you do it?’ What is the motivation to foster?
Usually, the reply is, ‘Because it’s something I feel I must do’; or, ‘Because I want to give something back.’ Others say, ‘I want to make a difference.’ Or, ‘I want to share the good fortune I’ve had with others who may not have been as lucky as me.’
To those who don’t understand, foster carers become foster carers because fostering is a feeling. It is a feeling of the need to be ‘doing something”; or not ‘feeling complete’. This feeling is often likened to a ‘calling.’
These people always knew they would realise their dream to foster; however, they knew they would do it when planned; when the time was right.
Foster carers give children a break when it’s needed most.
Foster carers would not describe themselves as superheroes (unless they’re playing with the kids, yes; they are Superheroes!)
Foster carers are exceptional people; they put the welfare of vulnerable children before themselves and support children who need a ‘break-in life’. In many ways, it reflects when we have all had ‘that break‘; when we met that certain someone who made us think differently and taught us to stop mistrusting others.
Foster carers are people who make things better; they go ‘the extra mile’, and children who don’t expect much of anything or anyone are very aware of this.
However, as much as children might not show it, they appreciate kindness but sadly don’t know how to accept it, and on the surface, they appear to reject it.
Foster carers know from experience that negative children’s behaviour is not personal; it’s a response from a trigger that children need to heal. Subsequently, once the healing begins, children will flourish.
‘Not for Profit Charities’ go ‘the extra mile’ for vulnerable children.
These Charities give ‘Outstanding’ support to foster carers, their families and their foster children; often, the first Social worker you meet is the one who stays with you throughout your fostering career.
Subsequently, strong relationships begin. These relationships become the framework of care you have, and more importantly, the framework that children have; thus, the children are as much a part of the fostering family as you and your family are.
The support you receive from Not for Profits is Outstanding. Every person in the Charities dedicates themselves to giving their foster carers the vital support they need to support children and throughout their fostering career.
Equally important is the ongoing training and personal development that foster carers receive; this training is of enormous importance to Charities as it reflects the continuing care they offer to you.
Sharing your motivation to foster children in care.
The motivation for fostering is usually the evidence of your passion for supporting vulnerable children. This passion may have been within us for a lifetime; however, life sometimes throws a curveball at us; thus, our dreams are ‘On Hold.’
Quite often, the path we are on isn’t the right one for fostering. Sometimes in life, we make mistakes; however, these mistakes don’t define us.
Thus, how we react and learn from our mistakes determines us as adults; more importantly, how we apply our experiences to prevent others from making the same mistakes in the future is essential.
Many children have not had the best start in life; sadly, they might have suffered trauma and loss, neglect and abuse; consequently, these children need a safe and loving home with foster carers who understand.
They need foster carers with experience supporting them and people who have an inherent empathy to make things better for them.
‘Not for Profit Charities’ understand children; after all, they have been giving support to vulnerable children and their families for decades. These Not for Profit Charities are highly respected within our communities; thus, we walk alongside them with pride, dignity and we have the utmost respect for the work they do.
We are recruiting foster carers with skills and experience in caring for children.
‘Not for Profit Charities’ are recruiting Foster carers who have dedication and compassion, and a shared vision; to be the very best for vulnerable children.
Foster carers can be single, married, living together, straight or gay. They can live in rented accommodation, own their property, they may smoke cigarettes, and some may not; (if you smoke, you will not get approved for children under five years of age).
They may not have academic qualifications; they may have experiences in life and raising their own families; most importantly, each person is unique.
What is the best type of foster care for you?
When you decide to foster, you need to determine the fostering type that reflects your motivation to foster. What kind of fostering fits this motivation?
Firstly, the highest demand is for foster carers to provide a safe home for siblings as ‘sibling foster carers’.
Secondly, there is a massive demand for ‘Parent and Child foster carers’ to help Mum’s and their babies stay together; finally, there is a vast demand for foster carers to support older children and teenagers.
These older children often have lousy press; however, many foster carers have often been very ‘pleasantly surprised’ by the young people they have supported.
Over 38% of children in the care system are aged ten and above, and consequently, they need foster homes to give them the stability to a safer future within a family setting.
Foster carers often say the same thing; ‘you get out of fostering what you put into it.’
Many teenagers in care develop a shell to protect themselves.
Many young people live with the difficulties of teenage angst; for many young people who have been in care for a long time, they have often moved around. Ultimately, they have developed a thick shell to protect themselves.
These children have an armour embedded, usually due to frequent rejection; however, these children need stability, honesty, and a feeling of belonging because underneath it all, they are scared.
More importantly, they are aware of the creeping reality that soon, they will be too old for foster care; then what will happen to them?
This question drives foster carers; we must create a future with positive prospects for these young people; thus, it is why foster carers and Charities will always go that ‘extra mile’.
These young people must have a positive and safe future; without this future, mental health problems in young people will continue to rise.
Therefore, if the support networks that young people need are not accessible, they become more vulnerable than ever?
Children need foster carers who will care for them.
Children in care wait for foster carers to be the difference they need to make their lives better. Foster carers make a significant difference to a child’s future; they heal the past with care, kindness, and compassion.
These children need foster carers with tolerance and patience and people who will never give up on them, no matter how hard they test you.
Foster carers and not-for-profit charities work 24/7, helping children overcome trauma; thus, they lead by example by ‘staying the pace’ at all times, with never-ending loyalty.
There are not many roles as demanding as fostering; however, fewer are as rewarding.
Not for Profit charities respect and recognise the unique skills and experiences you bring. In return, they give you 24/7 dedicated support from when you first meet through to you becoming approved a foster carer.
More importantly, their support stays with you throughout your fostering career because you and your family are a highly valued member of their fostering family.
The reality is; there are not many roles as demanding as foster care, but there are fewer roles in life that are as rewarding.
Verve offers honest advice on the fostering role, and we aim to match you with a charity that will reflect you, your skills and your experience in caring for children. More importantly, we match you with a charity that recognises your ‘fostering dream’ and the motivation to fostering.
Whatever the motivation that has led you to this point in your life, now is the time to making it a reality.
Thus, exploring the next move will dictate the rest of your life as a foster carer, as the choice of agency you decide to go with as a foster carer is probably the most significant decision you will make.
Ultimately, this choice will enable you to realise your fostering dream; and, most important of all, the dreams for the children that you bring into your life and heart.